If I find myself unexpectedly pregnant, abortion and single parenting are my only choices …. right?
There is a third choice, one that has proven to be a success for birth mothers and children --- the adoption option. Whichever choice you make will present many hardships. Adoption may be no more difficult than abortion or single parenting.
My friends and family will think I’m terrible giving up my own flesh and blood.
Adoption is not “giving up”, it is “choosing to give”. The adoption choice is one you have carefully made out of love for the future of your child and yourself.
I couldn’t stand it not knowing what happened to my baby.
The old fashioned way of doing adoptions (secrecy and no control) is out. Today, you are in control. Open adoption allows you to make the decisions regarding the future of your child and yourself. You will be able to follow your child’s development and receive pictures and updates regularly.
I’ve heard that kids who are adopted have lots of problems.
Not founded in fact. There are many studies done on adopted children, and it has been found that children who are adopted have, among other characteristics, high self-esteem and positive identity at rates as high or higher than their peers. We can give you more information on these studies if you wish.
What about me? I feel it is my responsibility to raise my child.
Your responsibility as a parent is to make the very best and informed decision that you can for your child. Studies show that birth mothers who make an adoption plan typically move on with their life, finish their education, have a career, and eventually marry and have a family. |
